Counselling Corner

• A school counsellor has a heart for all students and looks to support a student’s academic, emotional and social needs. The school counsellor goes into classrooms from time to time to deliver guidance lessons on a variety of topics such as personal safety, social-emotional learning (SEL), drug and alcohol awareness and mental health wellness.
• School counselling is usually short-term and may focus on strategies for reducing stress and anxiety, support in peer relationships, tools to improve academic success, exploring future career possibilities  or tips for mental heath wellness.
• When a student feels they need help, they can seek out the counsellor by making an appointment with the counsellor directly by email, or on the VCS website by looking under the ‘Book an Appointment’ tab below.
• Teachers and principals may refer students and VCS parents may refer their children as well to receive support. 

• School counselling is usually short-term and may focus on strategies for reducing stress and anxiety, support in peer relationships, tools to improve academic skills, exploring future career possibilities or tips for mental health wellness.  
• The school counsellor may make a recommendation for outside counselling should the student and/or counsellor feel it would be beneficial.

For the 2024-2025 school year students have two counsellors to choose from. To book an appointment please fill out a form below for the counsellor you would like to see.

• ANXIETY – is our body’s response to stress
• FEAR – an emotion expressed when scared
• WORRY – a fearful thought

We express our anxiety in our behaviour, bodies, emotions and thinking. Be alert and pay attention to changes you may experience in these areas. No doubt, you may have already recognized you are just not feeling like yourself. This is very normal in these unprecedented times so give yourself some grace and some space to deal with your stuff. Learning what causes you stress is actually helpful in building your self-awareness. The more self-aware you are, the more likely you are to express your fears, stress or anxious thoughts and do something about them! Here are some examples to pay attention to changes in:

– low or high energy levels
– irritability
– hard time falling asleep or staying asleep
– crying often
– excessive worrying
– wanting to be alone a lot
– stomach pains or headaches
– sweating hands or frequent chills
– feeling depressed, angry and/or guilty
– being overwhelmed with stress or sadness
– difficulty focusing or making decisions

More links to look at:
HealthLinkBC
Canadian Mental Health Association in Vernon

•  Certain amounts of anxiety are normal but prolonged, unchecked high anxiety is unhealthy and not a productive response to life situations. You are more resilient than you realize and God encourages you to “be strong” and “do not be afraid for I am with you and I will strengthen you and help you”…I know this is sometimes easier said than done, but it is not impossible! Take His request to heart:  let it sink in and give God your reins of control in areas you cannot change. At times, you may feel like you are not in control of much, but you can acknowledge you do have some control in things like:
  • Praying and reading God’s word.
  • Continuing in your education at home, connecting with your classmates and teachers.
  • Giving your best in whatever you do.
  • Learning a new skill such as sewing, baking, gardening, debating, skateboarding or what might interest you from YouTube, free online TED talks, Webinars or MasterClass.
  • Improving skills in sports you are already good at.
  • Creating outlets to express your creative side like crafts, art, photography and music.

• Uncertainty feeds anxiety. Think about what causes you stress and what you fear the most right now.  Usually, it’s what is consistently on your mind. These things you store in what I like to call your “brain’s inbox”.  I often recommend students write out these worries in a “Worry-Free” or “God’s Got This” journal. This is a place where you can write out each worry then make a plan for each worry. Once you make a plan for each worry, you are not allowed to think about it anymore. You have made a plan for it and therefore, it’s out of your inbox! If the worry is still a concern the next day, you can write it out and make a new plan and continue this journal entry process daily until the worry is gone. This journal is an especially helpful tool if you have a hard time shutting off your brain at night. Nighttime can make everything seem worse. Tuning out the negatives (getting them out of your brain’s inbox) is super helpful. I’ll recommend more tips in the bedtime routine section. If writing in a journal itself seems like a daunting task, I can help you get started. It’s not nearly as difficult as you may think. 

•  If you have a hard time falling asleep or if your mind is thinking of negative things over and over then a bedtime routine might help to calm your mind. You will need to tune out the noise in order to fall asleep more quickly and have a good rest.
  1.  Turn off your phone and computer at least one hour before bedtime to allow your brain to shut down
  2.  Read your Bible. Meditate on a favourite verse
  3.  Pray
  4.  Write your worries in a journal and give each one to God (see “Make a Plan”) or just journal if you love writing
  5.  Take a relaxing bath
  6.  Listen to worship music
  7.  Listen to nature-themed music if it helps you to fall asleep

• Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.(1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)

  • Make lists in a “Giving Thanks Journal” to help remind you what you are thankful for.  Fear deceives us and prevents us from seeing the things to be grateful for. Being grateful is a very productive way to help change a negative outlook to a more positive one even if you have a hard time thinking of anything to be grateful for. Looking outside to see God’s amazing creation, thinking of your family, or thinking about what you have been given can all help you “give thanks” to God and help you be grateful for what you have. Start with the writing prompt, “20 things I am grateful for…” to get you going.
  • Make a gratitude jar and fill it with pieces of paper writing on each piece one thing you are grateful for. Decorate the jar the way you want. Then, every day, take one piece of paper out and focus on that one thing. Keep adding to the jar as you remember things you are grateful for.
  • Tell at least one person a day you are thankful for them! You can tell them with a call or write a card.

• Jesus replied, “This is the most important: ‘Hear O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is One and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.” (Mark 12:30-31)
  

  I often share this scripture to help redirect self-focused to others-focused thinking. I have heard so many fun stories of how you are reaching out to your classmates and hearing about all of the giggles shared. Continue to do these kinds of loving acts of service. If you have any ideas I can add here let me know or if you need ideas see here:

  1. Reach out to the elderly in your family or to those have to be self-quarantined for longer periods of time. Zoom or FaceTime them to encourage them.
  2. Drop off a rock you have painted or paint a sign for a neighbour.
  3. Call your friends or family far away and encourage them.
  4. Create a family serving jar with ways your family members can serve one another. Each member can choose one daily task for you to do for them such as cooking a meal, making a favourite dessert, making their bed, playing their favourite game, or doing a chore for them.
  5. Write a letter to a friend, classmate, teacher, counsellor or grandparent and mail it.

• After hours of school work in front of a screen, we need to get out and enjoy the outdoors. You know this. Get outside and connect with nature. God walked in the garden with Adam and Eve and surely He will walk with you out there! Set important time aside to get enough physical exercise. There are so many parks and hiking trails To explore here in Vernon and are usually not crowded. Getting out into nature and meeting with friends make hikes a perfect way to fill the need to connect and get exercise. For younger kids, a bike ride supervised by an older sibling or parent is an easier way to hang with a friend.

• Eating healthy foods, drinking plenty of water, engaging in physical exercise, taking time to relax and connecting with God, nature and serving others all are excellent ways to contribute to a strong mental health. However, it is hard to focus on scripture or on any strategy if we are overly anxious. It’s not until we bring down our emotions or “de-escalate” that we can begin to listen or be in a place where we can try to put strategies into practice. God made in each one of us an amazing central nervous system made up of our brain and spinal cord. To put it simply, when we are anxious, our body goes into the “fight, flight, or freeze” response and the amygdala, that part of our brain which perceives emotions, takes over. When we sense a threat or feel anxiety, our brain is responding to what we perceive as a threat where we fight, run away, or do nothing. This response prevents the information from moving forward to the prefrontal cortex, the part of our brain that is more rational. If the information does not move on, we are perceiving a constant threat, which results in constant anxiety. There are some easy breathing techniques to help make the shift from this heightened emotional state to rational thought by helping us to judge if there really is a threat or not. Just one deep breath begins that process! This is a physical exercise, not a spiritual one. But it is important because it can help you think clearly and calm you down to the point where connection to God in prayer is possible. Here are examples of two exercises:Balloon BreathingImagine slowly filling a balloon in your belly. Rest your hand on your stomach as you breathe 5 counts in slowly and then imagine releasing air in the balloon by breathing 5 counts out slowly. Do that 5 times.
  

  5 Senses Grounding Exercise 

  • Name 5 things you can SEE
  • Name 4 things you can TOUCH
  • Name 3 things you can HEAR
  • Name 2 things SMELL
  • Name 1 thing you TASTE

   

  More links to look at:

  MindShift CBT App – Download the app and access strategies from your phone

  Canadian Mental Health Association – COVID-19 Free support and help

  Strong Minds by BEACON – Free digital mental health guidance for all Canadians

  KidsHelpPhone – Kids Help Line Text Chat

• Early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.  (Mark 1:35)
  

  Jesus got his strength from prayer and made a point to seek out a spot to be alone with God. His source of strength was a direct result of connecting with God; and if Jesus needed to spend time with His Father, then so do we. Especially in such a time as now. What are you learning through this time away from school and from social distancing? What is God teaching you? What is He stirring inside you? What does He want you to let go of? I have no doubt God is there strengthening you, desiring to help you, and is not far from you. Here are some encouraging scriptures to start your day and will bring great comfort in knowing:

  • Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.  (1 Peter 5:7)
  • For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.  (2 Timothy 1:7)
  • Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.  (Deuteronomy 31:6)
  • He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.  (Psalms 91:4)
  • I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.  (John 16:33)

Regulating Class Strategies

In-Class Strategies

Building Regulating Activities Into Routine

1. Start class calmly, end class calmly
2. Read through Psalms or other scriptures on God’s sovereignty-often-as a devo.
3. Play calm instrumental or worship music
4. Reading time or journalling time. Read aloud to students of all ages
5. Practice Slow, deep breathing. Calm down our amygdala as it misfires when in fight, flight or freeze mode. Intentional breathing brings the brain back online. Exercises: Blow Out All the Birthday Candles, Fist of 5 Breathing and 5 Senses Grounding Exercise.
6. Taking clutter out of your classrooms. What is overstimulating in the classroom that is competing with students’ attention?
7. Movement – dancing, stretching or exercising on the spot. Exercise before more heady subjects
8. Smile and laugh often!

Second Step Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) Program K-8 and Bullying Prevention Program

• VCS utilizes the Second Step Elementary and Middle School digital SEL programs which are web-based classroom tools that promote social-emotional skills to enhance students’ academic success and reduce problem behaviors. They teach coping strategies, relationship-building, and social skills, with lessons that grow in complexity as students age. The programs equip students to manage emotions, show empathy, build friendships, make good decisions, and solve peer conflicts.

• The Second Step Bullying Prevention Unit provides age-appropriate lessons for kindergarten through grade 5, equipping educators with research-based strategies, training, and family resources to foster safe and supportive learning environments.

The Bible, Chapel and Devotionals as SEL and Bullying Prevention Tools

• VCS incorporates biblical principles into bullying prevention by teaching students to serve, honor, and love their peers, as commanded in Scripture. Through Bible lessons and daily devotions, students explore verses like Matthew 22:39 (“Love your neighbor as yourself”) and Ephesians 4:32 (“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you”). These teachings guide students to recognize the value of each person as created in God’s image, fostering respect, kindness, and empathy. Practical applications include encouraging acts of service, resolving conflicts biblically, and creating a school culture rooted in Christ-like love and community.